Sex and cancer for men
Radiotherapy uses radiation to kill cancer cells. It treats many different types of cancer.
Having radiotherapy could affect your sex life in several ways. For example, daily treatments for several weeks can make you very tired. You might not feel like having sex. Other side effects, such as diarrhoea and urinary problems, could have an impact of being close with another person.
Radiotherapy can be either external or internal. External radiotherapy uses a machine. This targets the cancer with radiation from outside of the body.
Internal radiotherapy is also known as brachytherapy. It gives radiation from inside the body.
If you are having external radiotherapy treatment, it is fine to have intercourse if you both want to.
It is best to use condoms during intercourse for the first month after treatment if you had brachytherapy for prostate cancer. This applies to vaginal sex, anal sex or oral sex. This rarely happens, but there is a risk that a radiotherapy seed gets misplaced and is present in the semen.
You may find radiotherapy to the pelvic area causes:
painful ejaculation
problems with erections
lowered interest in sex
You may find that ejaculating is painful during your course of radiotherapy. This is because the gets inflamed by the radiation. This side effect should disappear a few weeks after you finish your treatment.
It might be best to avoid intercourse if it is painful. But you might be able to find other ways of enjoying sexual relationships.
You may have radiotherapy to the pelvis for:
prostate cancer
bladder cancer
lower bowel cancer
Erection problems are common after pelvic radiotherapy.
After having radiotherapy for bowel or bladder cancer, you might find that your erections are not as strong as before. Or you might be able to get an erection but then lose it.
These side effects tend to come on gradually over several months following your treatment. The radiotherapy causes scar tissue. This damages the nerves and blood vessels that help you to get an erection.
There are treatments that might help you get an erection.
You might feel less interested in sex following radiotherapy to the pelvis. Having radiotherapy near the testicles might lower your production of testosterone. Testosterone is the hormone that gives you your sexual desire. If you produce less testosterone, your interest in sex will be lower. But this does not happen to most men who have radiotherapy to the pelvis.
You may feel that your desire for sex is lower, but it might be due to other reasons, including:
tiredness (fatigue)
anxiety about having cancer
loss of confidence and self esteem
side effects from other treatments such as cancer drugs
Usually these problems disappear once your treatment finishes. And your interest in sex will go back to normal. It may take a bit of time, so don’t worry too much if you don’t feel like having sex for a while.
These changes and the emotions it can bring can be difficult to cope with. It might help to talk to a partner, relative or friend. Let your nurse, specialist or GP know how you are feeling. They can let you know what help and support is available in your treatment centre or in your area.
Some people choose to talk things through with a counsellor or therapist. Or you could contact some of the organisations that offer support and information about relationships and sexuality.
Last reviewed: 16 Oct 2024
Next review due: 16 Oct 2027
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